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Dysfunctional Thinking and Trauma Behaviors in Church

Churches are meant to be places of healing, community, and spiritual growth. However, for some, religious environments can trigger or amplify dysfunctional thinking and trauma-related behaviors. This post explores how trauma and cognitive distortions intersect in church settings, their impact on individuals, and how churches can foster healing. Understanding Dysfunctional Thinking Dysfunctional thinking refers to Read More

Addressing Unscriptural Beliefs in Church

In many church communities, deeply ingrained belief systems can subtly shape behavior, expectations, and even theology. While some of these beliefs are rooted in Scripture, others may arise from tradition, culture, or human agendas, often going unnoticed or being misidentified as biblically grounded. When these beliefs are used to control or shame congregants, they can Read More

Have You Ever Heard of the Term, “After Pastor?”

TRIGGER WARNING: This blog post might cause some emotional, or mental distress as it mentions incest, rape, spiritual abuse, and betrayal.  The journey of an After Pastor is an unexpected, tumultuous, and confusing journey filled with pain, cognitive dissonance, confusion, and loneliness. At least, it was for me. The “After Pastor” position wasn’t one that Read More

Setting Boundaries with Toxic People

It is inevitable that when you serve people in a position of counselor, teacher, or pastor, that you will encounter toxic people that are not interested in growth, but instead, seeking supply. How to know the difference between a person who is healing and a person who is not can be a challenge. In every Read More

The Power of Assumptions: Understanding Their Impact on Our Lives

Assumptions are a natural part of human thinking. They help us navigate the complexities of life by allowing us to make quick judgments and decisions based on previous experiences and observations. However, while assumptions can sometimes streamline our decision-making processes, they can lead to misunderstandings and misguided actions. Understanding the nature of assumptions is essential Read More