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As we journey through life, we all encounter moments of hurt—wounds inflicted by others or even by our own actions. Forgiveness is a topic that carries profound weight, and as your mentor, I want to guide you through what it truly means to forgive and why it’s a cornerstone of personal growth and healthy relationships. Read More

Understanding Negative Thoughts and Their Impact on Faith In our journey of faith, it is common to encounter negative thoughts that can shake our confidence and belief. However, it’s crucial to recognize that these thoughts are not the root cause of a lack of faith; they may simply contribute to it. The Bible provides guidance Read More

I’ve always been someone who feels deeply before I can think clearly. It’s like my emotions have a direct line to my heart, bypassing my brain entirely at times. There’s a moment I’ve come to recognize—a red flag, I call it—when something someone says or does hits me like a wave. My body reacts before Read More

As Christians, we often feel a deep pull toward stories—whether in Scripture, sermons, or even our dreams at night. This isn’t by accident; God wired us to connect with narratives and metaphors, helping us make sense of life and His purpose for us. But sometimes, what feels like a divine call in our dreams or Read More

Embracing Authenticity Over Perfection Being a pastor’s wife comes with a unique set of expectations, often unspoken but deeply felt. There’s this idea, sometimes from peers, and sometimes from within, that you’re supposed to be the gold standard of faith, grace, and virtue as the pastor’s wife (or in some cases, the pastor.) You’re expected Read More

Understanding Forgiveness and Boundaries in Confronting Sin in the Church The church often grapples with a profound tension: “How do we balance the biblical call to forgive and love others with the need to address sin, particularly when it involves leaders who abuse their authority?” For years, I’ve struggled with the doctrines I’ve been taught Read More

The distinction between discernment and judgment shapes our interactions and well-being across life’s many domains, from personal relationships to public discourse. By exploring real-life stories, we can see how choosing discernment over judgment fosters healthier outcomes and wiser choices. The concept of discernment—evaluating situations or behaviors with clarity and compassion without condemnation—contrasts with judgment, which Read More

In our daily interactions, we often need to evaluate situations, people, or actions. However, the way we approach these evaluations can have a profound impact on our relationships and perspectives. Two terms often used interchangeably—discerning and judging—carry distinct meanings that shape how we process and respond to the world around us. As I recently shared Read More

Confronting Abuse in Church Leadership: A Call to Courage and Justice As a survivor of abuse and later an Associate Pastor stepping in after a leader’s moral failure, I’ve seen the devastation of sexual abuse in the church. When leaders violate their flock, it’s not just a betrayal—it’s a crime that demands action. Here’s why Read More

When a church leader discovers that another leader is sexually abusing members and no one is taking action, the weight of responsibility can feel overwhelming. As a community entrusted with spiritual care, churches must prioritize justice, safety, and healing. Here’s a clear, actionable guide for leaders facing this crisis, grounded in ethical and biblical principles. Read More

As a leader or pastor’s wife, you may feel the weight of expectations—to be flawless, to have all the answers, and to fix everyone’s problems. These pressures can lead to burnout and a sense of failure when perfection proves unattainable. However, your true calling is not to be perfect or to fix others but to Read More