A great deal of people have stayed in relationships that ranged from friendship to business to marriage to church attendance, and it was the last place they should have stayed. Staying for the benefit of others is not a good enough reason to stay. God is bigger than divorce – of COURSE He hates it! He hates that it occurs at all, and He hates what it does to people.
As I shared some thoughts with a friend through a series of emails, this moment stuck out to me the most in our discussions about how to communicate and make a difference with those who we love and care about. The following rose up in my spirit and I’d like to share it with you here, as well as a few additional thoughts I’ve had for quite some time now …
NONE OF US must fall into the trap of taking our walk with the Lord for granted. EACH OF US WILL reap what we sow and WE ARE responsible for the witness we give before God and Man.
If you find yourself feeling weighed down, burdened and wrestling with dark and oppressive thoughts, it’s time to do some maintenance! Unlike a daily shower where you can easily wash off the dirt of the day, this type of maintenance can be compared to .. well… cleaning a vacuum as I mentioned in one of my other posts.
As a caregiver, whether you are a pastor, a mom or in a service related job, you will be affected by the lives of those around you. Their tragedies and their joys. Unfortunately, as is common with human beings, we seem to get more pleasure in talking about our pain than we do about our pleasures.
Did you know that you have needs that you think are wants, and wants that you think are needs?
In modern, “civilized” countries, we are inundated with advertising slogans and media ploys to encourage us to spend more and desire more. As we have grown as a nation, we have prospered to a point where the fine line between “needs” and “wants” are so blurred that most people really can’t tell what they truly need … versus what they really want.
“Would you like a Carmel Highrise?” Carol asks as she moves towards the counter the moment we walk through the door of our favorite coffee shop. Who ever asks first is saying, “I love you and want to buy you coffee this morning.” Carol is always thoughtful and extremely patient. The energy she brings with her is calming and tender – and my energy (I’ve been told) is encouraging and inspiring. Together, we balance each other out and strengthen one another.