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2 thoughts on “What Kind of a Plan Does God REALLY Have for Your Life?

  1. Sasha says:

    My husband has been a bi-vocational pastor for 6+ years now and is working himself to death. He recently told me that he was considering resigning from the church. He works 18 or more hours 7 days a week and still doesn’t get everything done. He has to keep his secular job because it’s the one that pays and we have to live. Should I support him in resigning from the church and see where God leads us next or encourage him to continue, knowing it’s not physically or mentally healthy for him?

    • Shannon says:

      Unfortunately, the question you ask is a common one among ministers who have a passion to help others. The slippery slope that many get stuck on is the very one you describe. On the surface, it appears noble and honoring in going about “The Lord’s Business” but, is it really “The LORD’S Business?” Jesus said that He came to give us LIFE and to give it MORE ABUNDANTLY. He didn’t say, “I came to give you work and to give it to you more abundantly.” We do that to ourselves!

      We mean well. We truly are doing the very best we know how to do, with what we have to work with. The problem is not asking more effective questions of how we are doing things when those things are not producing life, joy, abundance, peace, love, and vision. (Just to name a few benefits of Kingdom Living)

      The very first question that needs to be asked is “WHY am I doing what I’m doing?” Another question is “WHY am I doing it this way?” Many times, a church will begin with a clear purpose and vision, but the everyday cares of this world get in the way with a lot of “How will we get this done?” Then our eyes turn towards the HOW and we leave the WHY in the dust of our busy-ness.

      By all means. Support your husband in finding more effective solutions for his life and yours. Pursue life. Ask more effective questions to make those hard decisions that must be made. Sometimes it’s an issue of not wanting to let an individual down, or not wanting to confront an issue, or of even being in the wrong place. Many a pastor began as an evangelist or teacher, gained a following and became a pastor. But that doesn’t mean they are PASTORS. It means they were effective and excellent teachers or evangelists who prospered in what they did. Then a decision was made that sounded logical – but in reality is a man-made decision formulated with man-made ideas of what that would look like. (We’ll need a building to house them, and classes, and teachers, and a janitor, bulletins, and … and … and …) We forget to look at the fruit of our labors.

      A good tree bears good fruit. If the fruit that is being produced in the ministry is just more work, and no lives are being changed, but harm is coming instead, to your family and your marriage, then something’s not right with the tree.

      God is bigger than any problem or change we may encounter. We are the ones that make things more difficult than we need to because we are not asking more effective questions, staying in our WHY (what motivates us to do what we love to do).

      Ask yourself questions like, “What is the risk if I continue doing this, or don’t do that?” “What is the benefit?” You can do this with a sheet of paper, divided vertically in half. Label the top of the two columns with the word “RISK and BENEFIT”. Then list your answers to the questions you ask along the lines of what gives you life.
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      Thank you for visiting this site and taking the time to ask such an important question!

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